Your Brain Is Lying to You: Why You Don’t Have to Believe Every Thought It Offers
Let’s play a quick game.
Which of these thoughts have you had lately?
“I’m such a mess.”
“Other moms seem to handle this better.”
“I should be more grateful.”
“I can’t focus on anything.”
“What’s wrong with me?”
If you’re nodding—even a little—you’re normal.
But here’s the truth bomb:
Just because your brain thinks something doesn’t make it true.
Read that again.
Your brain is a chatterbox.
And most of what it offers up on default?
It’s not facts. It’s old programming. And it’s keeping you foggy.
🧠 Why Your Brain Feeds You Garbage Thoughts
Your brain’s main job is to keep you alive, not happy.
It wants safety, certainty, and efficiency. So it runs the same thought loops over and over to conserve energy.
This means:
It scans for danger (real or imagined)
It replays past patterns
It predicts worst-case outcomes
So when you think things like:
“I’ll never get it together”
“There’s no time for me”
“This is just who I am now”
That’s not clarity talking.
That’s your survival brain on autopilot.
🧠 What Happens When You Believe Every Thought?
When you treat every single thought like a fact, your life starts to feel:
Heavier
More confusing
Emotionally exhausting
Full of invisible rules you never agreed to
That’s the cognitive load talking.
And when you’re already juggling motherhood, overstimulation, and brain fog?
These thoughts don’t just annoy you—they completely drain you.
⚠️ Common Brain Lies Moms Believe (Without Realizing It)
Let’s call them out, shall we?
1. “I’m just not good at this.”
Lie.
Truth: You’re learning a skill no one trained you for, without a break, under impossible conditions.
2. “Everyone else is doing better.”
Lie.
Truth: You’re seeing curated moments. Everyone is struggling in some way—especially the ones who seem like they’re not.
3. “I don’t have time to think about myself.”
Lie.
Truth: You don’t have time not to. When you burn out, everyone loses.
4. “This is just who I am now.”
Lie.
Truth: This is who you’ve been forced to become under mental overload. You can change the script.
💭 So... If a Thought Isn’t True, What Do You Do With It?
You don’t have to fight it. You don’t have to affirm the opposite.
You just have to notice it—and decide if it’s useful.
Here’s the simple 3-step coaching tool I teach:
🛑 1. Pause and Label the Thought
Say to yourself:
“Oh, that’s just a thought. Not a fact.”
That moment of awareness gives you power.
Instead of drowning in the thought, you’re observing it.
❓ 2. Ask: Is This Helpful or Harmful?
Not true or false.
Not nice or mean.
Helpful or harmful. Does this thought move me toward clarity—or further into the fog?
🔁 3. Offer a New Thought (Even If You Don’t Fully Believe It Yet)
You don’t have to go from:
“I’m a disaster”
to
“I’m amazing and crushing it.”
Try something like:
“I’m having a tough day, but I’m still doing my best.”
“My brain is tired, not broken.”
“I’m allowed to think on purpose.”
That’s how you build new brain patterns—one intentional thought at a time.
💡 Final Thoughts: Your Brain Isn’t the Boss of You
Here’s the wildest, most freeing truth:
You are not your thoughts.
You are the thinker. The observer. The one who gets to choose what to keep and what to release.
So the next time your brain hands you some foggy, mean-girl, anxiety-drenched thought?
You don’t have to argue.
You don’t have to fix it.
You just say:
“Thanks, brain. But no thanks.”
You’re the one in charge now.
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